Relationship-focused:
While some traditional approaches might focus on individual growth, RLT/C emphasises the impact of relationships on well-being.
 

Direct and Action-Oriented:
RLT/C uses a more direct, action-oriented approach, encouraging individuals to take decisive action and challenge destructive patterns.
 

Honesty & Accountability:
RLT/C will challenge clients to look at themselves honestly with kindness, addressing behaviours and issues in a clear and direct way.

Phase 1: Uncovering the Truth
This phase focuses on identifying and interrupting dysfunctional relational patterns. It involves uncovering core challenges and naming non-relational patterns practiced.
 

Phase 2: Understanding the Why
Once destructive patterns are identified, the coach guides the partners to understand: The origin of their behaviours, how families of origin shape their relational "stance" and cycle
 

Phase 3: Learning New Relational Skills Focuses on "conscious relationship". Topics include: relational mindfulness; full-respect living: and repairing ruptures with accountability and empathy.








 

Rapid and Lasting Change:
RLT/C aims for swift and permanent change by addressing underlying issues and promoting lasting behavioural adjustments.
 

Action Over Insight:
While insight is important, RLT may place a greater emphasis on action and making significant changes to relational dynamics.
 

Neurobiology:
RLT/C uses neuroplasticity research and practices to catalyse change to promote new conscience and practices that are enduring.
 

​​Therapist as a "Fellow Traveler":
Unlike traditional therapists or coaches who may present themselves as experts, RLT coaches and therapists may speak as imperfect people who are themselves in relationship recovery, fostering a more collaborative and less hierarchical relationship to clients.
 

Taking Sides:
RLT/C may involve the therapist or coach taking sides to restore balance in the relationship, breaking from the traditional neutral stance in therapy.













 

Psychological Patriarchy:
RLT addresses power imbalances and the impact of gender roles and cultural conditioning on relationships.
 

​Relational Mindfulness:
RLT incorporates the practice of Relational Mindfulness, which involves being conscious of habitual responses and applying skills to manage situations.
 

One-Up & One-Down:
RLT explores the dynamics of power imbalances in relationships, where partners might feel "one-down" or "one-up," and how these dynamics can impact intimacy.

Partners:
Help clients learn new ways to love and communicate with each other with respect and empathy. Guide partners to deepen awareness, practice humility and grow relationally.  Show clients harmful patterns, and have each person take responsibility for their part without blaming.
 

Individuals:
Guide clients to develop deep compassion towards self as basis to build healthy intimacy with others. Help each person understand past challenges in building partnerships by clearly mapping behaviours, and developing realistic partnership goals, with accompanying skills.
 

Professionals:
Help clients access and use deep emotional intelligence to make smart relational choices at work and find greater life balance. Identify why and how clients may feel insecure professionally or when seeking new jobs, and aid them to strategically use their careers to reach their life mission.